Your clothes talk – do they tell the truth?
You are what you wear. It takes just a second for another person to form an opinion of you and it’s based on your appearance. The way you dress says a lot about you – what you like, how much you take care of yourself and even what kind of person you probably are. You may not be aware of it but it’s true – what you wear is important.
People will think something about you whether or not the impression they have is right. They may see you in an elegant dress and treat you like a lady, though you may not be one. Could that be a problem? Sure!
Maybe you just really want to watch sports with your friends, but people you meet would think you’re not interested in things like that and other sport-fans may even think they have nothing in common with you and therefore won’t even talk to you. Such a shame, right?
We choose our friends and lovers based on mutual interests and sympathies and we usually feel sympathetic towards people who seem to like the same things we do. Want to find people who will really like you the way you are? Dress in a way so they see who you are before they even meet you.
Let me ask you a question. Do you want to be happy? Of course you do, everybody does. The thing is, you can’t exactly be happy when all you do is care about what makes happy everyone else, not you. You need to know who you are what you enjoy and what is truly valuable to you. Once you know who you are it’s also important to let it show. Be yourself, act like yourself and dress like yourself!
And don’t tell me it’s somehow bad or not spiritual to care how you look like. It’s not. Fashion can ge a great way of communication and self-expression.
To dress well is an art – one I truly appreciate. I would love to see more stylish, colourful, different people in the streets. People who are not afraid to be seen! You know, beauty is truly food for the soul.
To dress right is to have your own personal style! If you have one you don’t need to care about what is currently fashionable. You don’t care. Why would you? You know what to wear. You wear clothes that look good on you and express who you are inside.
You style might evolve as you age, but it should be specific and stable enough so that people will notice and remember you and your style. People that know you will hardly ever be surprised by your choice of outfit. Everybody will know if it’s typical for you to show up in yet another beautiful dress or colourful blouse.
Strangers would look and you and instantly know something about you, maybe that you’re a nature lover or sports fan or a true minimalist.
Maybe you’ve already tried to find or create your own personal style. It’s not easy – I would know. It took me years to find mine! I know how it feels when you do your best to find the best clothes for you but you just can’t get it right. Your ideal style suits you and your personality and you feel good and comfortable in it. It also says something about you.
Which means you have to truly get to know yourself in order to find your style! And that’s hard. We believe so much bullshit about ourselves. Other people may see things we don’t, but we pretend so much that they are not much better at knowing what lies beneath all our masks and beliefs than we do. Getting to know yourself is a long and sometimes painful process, but I’m sure it’s worth it. There are probably many books on the topic, but I’ve made a little guide for you and you can find it right here on this website. It should help you with getting to know your-self. There are also guides on creating your style, choosing the best colors for you and creating a functional wardrobe from scratch. Enjoy!
Don’t get me wrong – finding your style is a lot of work! It can also be a lot of fun. But if you ever feel like you will never find it yourself or maybe that you don’t have the time or it feels like chore – I’m here to help you. I can basically find your style and best colors for you and even help you with creating a wardrobe plan.
But be warned. I will NOT tell you to wear exclusively the thing you would like to wear or things people around you would want you to wear, I will always tell you to be yourself and look like yourself no matter if you like who you are and how you should look. You need to accept yourself the way you are, if you don’t you are not going to be happy with your true personal style. That’s just the way it is.
But if you’re ready to fall in love with yourself and your style I can’t wait to be on this journey with you!
I’m a bohemian, a witch and a romantic fairy. Fairly complicated person. INFP. I have great love and respect for nature. I believe there are still good people in this world and I cry when someone proves me right. Being myself, authentic, open and honest is extremely important to me. I couldn’t live without love and I cherish my home. I also hope I’ll soon have a family of my own.
I sing. I dance. I love to grow fruits and vegetables. I like interior design and I play pc games. I’m a renaissance soul, so my hobbies change quite often. One thing I’ve been interested in for a long time is personal style. It took me a long time to find my style and once I did I decided to start helping people with doing the same – so here I am!
Nerisa Kaloshin